Do you believe in yourself, your abilities and your qualities?
Are you living the life of your dreams or the life of your nightmares?
In this episode, we will be talking about self-belief and your dreams.
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In both a personal and professional capacity, I believe a lack of self-belief is one of the greatest tragedies today.
Author Myles Munroe said,
‘The wealthiest place in the world is not the gold mines of South America or the oil fields of Iraq or Iran. They are not the diamond mines of South Africa or the banks of the world. The wealthiest place on the planet is just down the road. It is the cemetery. There lie buried companies that were never started, inventions that were never made, bestselling books that were never written, and masterpieces that were never painted. In the cemetery is buried the greatest treasure of untapped potential.’
Many people have been told not to believe in themselves because it will cause them to be filled with pride and as we know, pride is a bad thing. Some people have been told all their lives by parents, friends, colleagues or competitors, ‘You can’t do that.’ ‘That is way beyond your skill level.’ ‘You will never succeed. Just accept that.’ ‘Stop believing in yourself.’
And they go to their graves with all of that potential unfulfilled, because they lacked the self-belief to become what they most desire. Not believing in you, your current ability and your ability to learn and develop new or better skills is the hand-brake which not only slows you down but causes you to stop.
Carl Jung said, “I am not what has happened to me. I am what I choose to become.”
Theodore Roosevelt said, “Believe you can and you are halfway there.”
I spoke with a business group a while back about the power inherent in having a dream or a vision for life which is powered by well-directed actions and shared with them some ideas of how they could make these suggestion work for them in life and in business.
Afterwards a guy came over to me and said that these things would never work for him.
‘Why would you say that?’ I asked.
‘Because I already know where I will fail even if I tried really hard to overcome them. I like to stick to the things I know work for me because that is where I am. I am not like you and some of the other people here who just do things and everything works out.’
To say I was without words, is a bit of an understatement.
After I recovered and was able to pull my jaw off the ground, I began to talk with him and soon discovered how negatively he viewed himself and how deep his lack of belief in himself ran. He never actually used the words, ‘I don’t believe in myself,’ but he didn’t have to. The words he used to describe himself shouted that message loud and clear.
What was interesting though was all of the things he said he wished he was able to do and the ideas he had. They were all contrary to what he was saying about himself.
My parting question to him was, ‘Why are you looking for all the reasons you can’t succeed, rather than looking for all the reasons you could succeed. Why not expend the same amount of energy you already are spending on the negative stuff and focus on the positive stuff. For example, why you can make one of your ideas work and become a reality?’
In the last episode of the show, we spoke about recognising that you are good enough. Self-belief is integral to the process. Self-belief is the cornerstone of knowing you are good enough.
You see the biggest difference between those people that are successful in life and business and those who aren’t is self-belief. Its not intelligence, education, financial support, etc. It is self-belief.
Self-belief is the capacity to know what you are good at, where you can improve and the courage to implement both within your everyday life. It is the fuel which fires your dreams to reality and the catalyst for moving your feet along the road to success.
Self-belief, rather than limiting choice, opens up all of the opportunities to you in which you can excel.
You see, self-belief is not believing you can achieve anything and everything you put your hand to, but rather that you have trust in your personal judgment, ability & power to achieve a goal, a dream, a life of purpose and meaning. It is not arrogance, but confidence. It is not cocky, but assuredness.
You can’t achieve a goal or a dream unless you first believe you are capable of reaching the end result. If you start out with the attitude of, ‘Oh well I’ll give it a go and see what happens,’ you will almost certainly give up at the first signs of an obstacle or challenge.
You have to start with believing in yourself and your abilities, then and only then will you begin the process of achieving your dream or goal.
There is incredible power in believing in yourself and I would suggest that you will find it almost impossible, if not completely impossible, to point out a single extremely successful person who did not believe in themselves. From Wilma Randolph, Steve Jobs and Bill Gates to Margaret Thatcher, Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela, they were and are filled with self-belief.
However, although they and many others achieved great success in life, it is not the success which I am talking about here. It is self-belief driven by a dream or vision and the willingness to get up again and again after being knocked down and stomped on.
When an idea or project failed self-belief drove them to learn, grow and get better. To push forward after every setback.
Each of these successful people were only able to keep going because of an unshakable belief in themselves in spite of some enormous failures and obstacles, often over the course of many years, until they broke through to succeed.
Self-belief allows you to accept you will fail, but that failure is a part of the journey, not the defining end of the journey.
You see, if your belief is strong, no setback, no obstacle, no challenge will wipe you out or stop you.
Someone once said, ‘You will only get the job, the paycheck, the business, the life you deep down believe you deserve.’
When you are filled with self-belief you will look for and find the opportunities which empower your goals and dreams. You will find creative and innovative solutions to the problems which stand in the way of your achieving your goals or of solving the problems facing the world today.
Self-belief stimulates and fires persistence and consistent action. It allows you to relax, while calmly and with clarity to take the most appropriate action to get where you are going. It makes you more responsive to the world and the people around you and allows others into your world.
The question then is how do you develop #selfbelief?
Here are 3 things you can do which will set you on that journey to developing belief in yourself and your ability.
Change your mental picture of yourself.
Changing the mental picture of yourself is about personal development. For example, by reading books which empower you to belief in yourself, your abilities and your strengths, you will develop the techniques and tools to formulate the belief that you can, rather than the belief you can’t.
Write a list of all of your strength and good qualities and then every day use that list to highlight those points. You will find they become stronger and your belief in yourself will grow. As that grows, the mental picture of yourself will change.
Watch carefully the words you use about yourself and ask yourself whether they are true or not? If they are true and not who you want to be, then consciously work on changing the words you use about yourself.
By changing how you see yourself, you will change what you believe about yourself and what you are capable of accomplishing.
Set bold, but achievable goals.
Now I know most people will tell you that you should set massive goals and push yourself to achieve them, and usually, I would agree, but if you lack the self-belief that you can achieve the big goals, you have set yourself up to fail. So rather, set yourself a bold, but achievable goal and hit it, then set a bigger more ambitious goal and achieve that.
The net result will be, your self-belief will grow and you will be continuously positioning yourself to become better than you currently are.
Once you have proven to yourself that you can do the thing you have set about to achieve, you can begin to set the massive goals which push you but start with growing your self-belief first with smaller, but bold goals.
For example, if you want to lose say 10kgs by the summer, start by setting a goal of losing 1/5 a kg in your first week and do everything you can to make that a reality. When you hit the 1/5kg loss, then your belief that you can, will increase and the next week will be easier because you know you can.
By proving to yourself that believing in your ability to lose 1/5 kg in a week, you can apply the same philosophy to every other area of life.
Give up comparing yourself to other people
Thirdly, stop comparing yourself with other people. As I said in the last episode, you are unique and only you can be you. You can not be someone else.
You see if you are continuously comparing your achievements, talents, abilities with that of any other person, you will always be second best, because best is taken by them. So give it up. It is a contest you can never win.
Compete with yourself and become determined to be better than your previous best. Look to improve your skills to become better. Look for ways to enhance your talents and strengths. Leave your weakness well alone for now. You can get back to them when your self-belief is much higher.
So there are 3 things you can begin to do immediately which will help you to begin believing in yourself.
So that it for this episode. Thanks for listening. I look forward to chatting with you again in the next episode.
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